Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. … 17 Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.
箴言 29:15 杖責和管教能使人有智慧,放縱的孩子使母親蒙羞。… 管教你的兒子,他必使你得安息;也必使你的心得喜樂。
The word “discipline” appears in Proverbs 17 times. This shows how important discipline is in raising up a child. In God’s eyes, rebelliousness in a child is a very serious sin, not only to the child’s family but to the community. (Deut. 21:18-21) The world, and sadly even the church, tells us that it is “normal” for a child to rebel especially during the teen years as this is part of the process of growing up. This idea was put forth in 1904 by Stanley Hall according to the ideas of evolution. Throughout the Bible we read of God’s command to parents to discipline their children. This is even a criteria for being designated a church leader: “[The church leader] must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive.” (1 Timothy 3:4) Every time a child rebels, we are reminded that we are all descendents of Adam and Eve, that we all sin and need a Savior who died on the cross to fix the relationship. Just as the fact that all sin does not make sin “normal”, all or most children rebelling does not make rebelliousness “normal”. It is time for the church and for us parents to take child rebelliousness seriously and to discipline our children.
“管教”一詞在箴言中出現了17次。這說明了養育孩子的管教是多麼重要。在神的眼中,孩子的叛逆是非常嚴重的罪惡,不僅對孩子的家庭,而且對社區都是如此。 (申命記21:18-21)世界,甚至不幸的是,教會告訴我們,孩子叛逆是“正常的”,尤其是在青少年時期,因為這是成長過程的一部分。這個想法是斯坦利·霍爾(Stanley Hall)於1904年根據進化論提出的。在整本聖經中,我們讀到了上帝對父母的管教自己的孩子的命令。這甚至是被任命為教會領袖的標準:“ [教會領袖]必須好好管理自己的家,使兒女凡事敬重順服。” (提摩太前書3:4)每次孩子叛逆時,我們都被提醒我們都是亞當和夏娃的後裔,我們所有人都犯罪,需要一個在十字架上死去的救主來解決這種關係。就像所有的人都犯罪不會使罪成為“正常”一樣,所有或大多數孩子叛逆也不會使叛逆成為“正常”。現在是教會和我們父母認真對待孩子叛逆並管教我們孩子的時候了。
